6 simple steps..

i've had a lot of time to think lately about how i relate to people, make friends, make friends etc. in this, i've narrowed down three good ways and three bad ways of doing so, which also protect you from getting hurt. i admit, this is somewhat, cynical.

firstly, the bad..

1) NEVER tell anyone everything about yourself; trusting someone with intimate information like that can only lead you to getting hurt, it makes you vulnerable. the other person has one up on you, material to put against you, whether you deserve it or not.

2) DO NOT allow yourself to become too attached; yes, it's nice to have someone there for you whenever you need them. but when they're not there, out of their own choice or other circumstance, it's you that's left lost. become self-dependant, not just in the literal sense, but emotionally. love often comes very slowly, but disappears in an instant; something you don't need. the only person you can trust is yourself.

3) STAY AWAY from people you feel negative around. whether it is through something they've done, or something of your own hand; someone who makes you feel bad about yourself is unhealthy for you.  or, your opinion of them has changed, or they have changed themselves. only you know how you feel, act, think etc. don't let anyone else tell you otherwise.

and, the good..

1) SURROUND yourself with good people. anyone who has similar interests, attitudes etc can always find common ground with you. if you enjoy the time spent with someone, there is perfect reason to spend more time with them. hopefully, you make them feel the same.

2) PRIORITISE; put yourself first. in the end, you only have yourself to depend on. other people can hurt you, but only you have the power to ignore their words; or lack of. you can only trust yourself  to make yourself happy.

3) WORK hard. throw yourself into work, studying, hobbies; whatever you enjoy. not only are you gaining independence and further skills, but you also open yourself up to greater opportunities; both professionally and personally. working hard can get you anywhere you want to.